Demeter's Dilemma: Balancing Love, Children, and Marital Bliss!

Finding a man who loves kids? For Demeter moms, that's like discovering a rare gem in a sea of average pebbles!

Many are concerned about the question of how women who belong to one or another Value-psychotype develop relationships with men. The natural and uncomplicated answer is different. As we have already said, each of us sees the world through the VALUABLE PRESS OF SELF, which is based on 12 meaning-forming values. Each of them gives rise to a PERSONAL DOMAINANT. One of these powerful meaning-forming values is LOVE. There are many legends about her, films have been made and poems have been written. The embodiment of this value are three ancient archetypes, which are embodied in the image of three ancient Greek goddesses. One of them is DEMETER - the goddess of motherhood and fertility, generosity and luxury.

How do relationships with men develop among women who prefer to use in life the behavioral patterns behind the archetypal image of this ancient Greek goddess? You will be surprised. They use them. Yes! This is how you can put it cynically. However, of course, it doesn't look like that in life. Yes, and they themselves don’t think so, believing that the desire to have a child from a specific man is the maximum degree of expression of love for him. At the same time, the choice of a lover is determined by them according to the following subconscious criteria:

OPTION 1.

A man is the opportunity to conceive a child, so he must be beautiful, smart and healthy in order to pass on these qualities to the child at the genotype level. In this version, marriage is excluded, although not always intentionally.

OPTION 2.

A man must earn well or be rich so that he can support both his wife and child, and maybe many children. This is an option for a second marriage, when there is already a child or several children, although, as a rule, children still appear in a second marriage.

OPTION 3.

A man must love children and combine the two previous options. This is a strong and long-lasting marriage, although, unfortunately, a rare option.

Here is the time to say that DEMETER has dreamed of becoming a mother since early childhood. Let us note that her thoughts are not about her husband or a beautiful wedding, but about her children.

However, DEMETER has a powerful FEMININE SELF ENERGY based on love and care, which, of course, attracts men. In relationships with men, such a woman is a real treat. She is fun, easy and interesting. It is not surprising that men are easily attracted and feel real passion for such women. What about our loving DEMETER? She quickly gets tired of energetic male obsession, because she is absolutely sure that she must constantly entertain them, feed them, give them water and at the same time be invariably cheerful and joyful.

If you see yourself in this image, then pay attention to the fact that it is not at all necessary to have tireless fun; sometimes it is worth spending a quiet evening with your chosen one without excesses. Just watch a movie together, walk in the park, ride a bike. You will feel that relationships with men can not only be tiring, but also inspiring, relaxing and calming.

It is obvious that subconsciously DEMETRA expects only children from such relationships. We recommend discussing this with your chosen one so that it does not come as a surprise to him and telling him what you expect from him in marriage. These are simple things that are rarely discussed, but are essential for a happy marriage or sustainable relationship. In fairness, it is worth noting that in most cases, children of such women are born out of wedlock, and they devote themselves entirely to them .

If, nevertheless, DEMETER had enough FEMALE ENERGY OF SELF for a magnificent, joyful and bright wedding to take place, then the marriage often does not last long. After the birth of a child of this kind, women practically ignore their husband, who begins to be jealous of the growing child. To avoid scandals and “save” her child from them, the woman “forcedly” sends the child to her parents, hires a nanny and takes all sorts of actions to demonstrate to her husband that the child is not a hindrance to their relationship. However, unable to behave cheerfully and festively with her husband, women embodying the image of Demeter go completely to work.

The great Sigmund Freud at one time called this behavior “sublimation” or substitution, the transfer of one’s feelings from one object to another. In this case, we are not talking about the sublimation of sexual relations, but about the sublimation of irritation regarding the husband and an attempt to reduce the abundance of one’s love for the child. In fact, the family ceases to exist. The wife and husband throw themselves into work, the child lives with the wife's parents among his mother's gifts. Obviously, the result of such a relationship is divorce.

Having parted with the man who was not her dream, such a mother devotes herself entirely to the child or children, often choosing a career for herself as the child grows up, for example, a teacher or owner of a kindergarten, and then a school.

If the loving DEMETER meets someone who wants and loves children, then a successful marriage can happen. It is interesting that Demeter, as a rule, is not a mother of many children. She is passionate about her pet and has no time to think about having other children. Moreover, often in such women the child is born quite late.